Emotions are hard but they are not mutually exclusive and do not cancel each other out in grief. I have missed Thomas with every cell in my body, and yet felt relieved that he is no longer suffering, or felt delighted by something that has reminded me of him. Feeling all sorts of different things at any one time, is a perfectly normal part of being human, and therefore part of grief.
There are so many different aspects to grief and therefore emotions, it can be hard to follow or predict how they will swirl and bubble. There are no "stages" set out in a linear process, which can be ticked off as you progress through. There is no orderly sequence of emotions and there is no on-off switch. It is not the case that you are either broken and unable to function or your completely healed and "over it". Rarely are things in life so black and white, so why do we feel that grief is that way?
"You've got to realize grieving and living isn't either/or; it takes grieving to find living after loss" @AfterChloe
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